Tuesday, April 21, 2015

10 Ways Being a Second Time Mom is Awesome

When I was pregnant with baby number two, I worried. A lot. My first baby was my dream come true and she made me a mother.

I wanted a second child and loved my baby so much in the womb, but I knew things wouldn't be the same the second time around.

Pregnancy when you're already a mother is a whole new ball game, and l heard a lot of "it's harder with two," or "just imagine with two" and was terrified!

However, I'm happy to report that life with two children is simply wonderful.

No, it's not all rainbows. And yes, I now fully agree that it really is harder! I sometimes wonder what I did all day with only one baby!

But it really is great, and I wanted to encourage all Moms who are there or soon to be there.


Here are 10 ways being a second time Mom is awesome!

1. You've been through it once before, so you know what you're doing

Or not. Even though my kids are less than two years apart, I feel like I forgot a lot in that time. But even if you can't remember or still feel lost, you know that you've done this once before and can do it again! Your partner is more confident and helpful the second time around too

2. You don't get as much unwanted advice

With your first baby, everyone is quick to let you know how they did things and the 'right' way to do everything, and it can get quite overwhelming! Even though you actually may not know what you're doing, people generally assume you've gotten the hang of parenting by now and give you a break

3. You don't stress over milestones

The first time around, I stressed so much over why my baby wasn't rolling or crawling or doing whatever "all" of the other babies were doing at the time.
By round 2, you've already done the comparing thing and know they'll do it when they're ready!

4. You already have some mommy friends

Making Mommy friends can be a little awkward! However, by now you probably already have at least a few you can call for playdates. If you're lucky, your friends will have baby #2 around the same time as you so both kids have an instant friend

5. You're the "expert" at mommy groups

Even though you don't *really* know what you're doing, you have done this once before and everyone actually pays attention when you share parenting advice
(But try not to be the overbearing sharer that scared you when your first was a baby!)

6. You trust babysitters more and can somewhat relax when you leave your baby

I say somewhat because I definitely still can't really relax without my children and have only left my baby twice with babysitters - including family! - and he is six months old! But I do feel better that my kids have each other and have left them a bunch of times in the church nursery and felt really good about it

7. Your partner forms a special bond with your older child

Since you're busy with the baby, your husband takes over a lot of the care of your older child. I have really loved watching the relationship my husband has with our daughter blossom; it's so precious!

8. Depending on the age gap of your children, you either have an automatic playmate for baby or a helper

The playmate clause may not kick in for a while (and apparently siblings don't always get along?) and your helper may not always be very helpful, but still. This counts.

9. There is nothing like the sibling bond, and you know your kids will always have each other

Even though they may not always get along, your sibling is your sibling for life. They will fight to no end but also defend each other. I love the relationship I have with my brothers and am so excited for my kids to grow up together

10. You also know how fast it goes and appreciate every moment

You may not document as much as you did with your first, but you enjoy it so much as it's happening. You're not as eager for them to get to the next milestone or stage and appreciate their little baby cuteness. Your second baby might be your baby forever and you can't get enough of their snuggles!


I definitely have days where I'm overwhelmed, but while days are long the years are short!

Hang in there, fellow Mommies! You got this!

62 comments:

  1. So much wisdom here! Thank you for sharing this.

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  2. This is so sweet! I nannied for a family that just had their second baby and she said some of these things, especially not worrying over the same things she did with her first little one.

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  3. We have an only child, so I don't experience this firsthand. But your advice at the end is solid: Hang in there, fellow Mommies! You got this!!

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    1. It's something I need to remind myself of often!

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  4. We were never supposed to have any children, but God blessed us with one as a miracle. Can never have any more, but remember a lot of this from my own life with my little brother. :)

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  5. Found myself nodding my head for each of these!
    Definitely felt much more prepared with the second one -- after all, I had done it before! My husband really did bond with our oldest when we had our second child. They are still super close.

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    1. That's so sweet! I hope my husband and daughter stay close as well

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  6. I don't think we'll ever have a second one, but this sounds familiar with me and my sister. =) Having two children can be wonderful!

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    1. Totally! But one is a huge blessing as well!

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  7. I'm seeing some of my mom friends become second-time moms, and all of this rings true! I'm still on the fence about no. 2, but these are all great reasons.

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  8. As a new second time mommy I totally agree! I would add that with experience you know that whatever stage your baby is in, good or bad, it will pass.

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    1. That is SO true! My little guy hasn't been the greatest sleeper but I don't stress over it because I know their sleep patterns change all the time

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  9. second time round is good, I think mums feel more comfortable and know instantly what they are doing. Thanks for sharing on#wednesdayswisdom

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  10. Exactly how I found it with number 2. A lovely post. Jx

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  11. These are all so true!! I'm a mom of four, and with each one those get more and more true... especially about being able to relax in the role a little bit!! Thanks for sharing :) Visiting from M2M link-up!

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    1. I was hoping to get some feedback from a third or more time mom! Thanks for stopping by!

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  12. This is awesome, thanks for sharing. We definitely want to have a second at some point and this makes me even more excited about the possibility.

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    1. It's tough but so worth it! How exciting!

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  13. I agree, these are all true! Having a second adds to the fun!

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  14. So true. Although I still felt unsure the second and third time around. I never fully felt like I knew what I was doing. I was more confident about what I was doing, but sometimes not sure it was the right thing.

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    1. Oh for sure! Like I said, I feel like I forgot a lot between kids and I don't think you ever *really* know what you're doing!

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  15. This is great advice for a second time mom! You do have a lot more confidence after the first, and feel a little more sure of yourself! Mine are 5 years apart so I loved having a built in helper, and now as they get older all 3 of mine are great friends and it's wonderful!

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    1. Aww that's so sweet! I hope mine will be friends as well

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  16. I found going from one to two was easy but two to three was the hardest because there was only an extra set of hands. I agree that all children need a sibling. My girls are each other's best friends.

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  17. I agree the second child puts a ripple in things but because of that ripple there are other good things that are made visible as well. So it's not all so bad :)

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  18. SO true! I'm expecting number 3 and although there are times when I get worried that I'm going to be out numbered I'm not quite a anxiety ridden as I was with my first and all the small things I was concerned about. I also found it made me appreciate different things from each child and it really is an adventure to see how two little people can be SO DIFFERENT but they both came from you! Crazy!

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    1. It's true, my two are SO different!! Congrats on baby number 3!

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  19. Great list! My 2nd made me worry so much less. And I love love love seeing them play together! Thanks so much for linking up at MeetUp Monday! Hope to see you again tomorrow!
    --Krista
    www.thequinntessentialmommy.com

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  20. After four kids, I still don't feel as though I know what I'm doing! haha Each kid, for me, has been so different and unique, but at least I have a basis after my first was born.

    Thank you for sharing your lsit at Inspire Me Monday.

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  21. This is great! I had my second baby in October and I agree there are many challenging moments but also innumerable blessings! Stopping by from #BeyondMommyingSis

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    1. My second was born at the end of September! Thanks for stopping by!

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  22. You make a ton of great points and I never found two that much more difficult than one. I feel like once you're in it, it's just magnified, not multiplied! Thanks for linking up with #BeyondMommyingSiS

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  23. yes! I agree on the advice! You don't get it as much the second time around! :)

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  24. Our second time around was great too! Although, it came only 15 months after the first one, so we didn't really have time to forget much :D It's so funny though how you become the "expert" among your friends that only have one child lol It was hard at first, but we fell into a routine and haven't looked back. I wouldn't change it for the world!

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  25. So so true! I wasn't sure how being a mom the second (third, or fourth) times around would be - but it's so much better than I ever thought! I remember thinking that I wasn't sure how I could even love another little one the same way I already loved my first! But here I am, with four littles, and it is oh so possible! I love that you shared these reminders to encourage other mamas!

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  26. all of these are so very true--though the transition to the second baby was a little hard to me. but yes, we got it and we're in our groove.

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  27. Oh my goodness, thank you, thank you, thank you! I have baby #2 on the way and I SO needed this! I've been a hot mess worrying about having two kids, and this made me feel so much better!

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  28. Ohhh I love some of these pros! We plan on having an only child, but I would love having a pregnancy where I knew at least a little of what to expect!

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  29. It really is true about the special bond that your partner develops with the older child. Women are really good at babies. Men are really good with toddlers and kids. Maybe because they are just grown up kids themselves.

    To see your partner bond with that child on a different level is amazing and, for me, makes my heart swell with gratitude!

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  30. Such a sweet post! I literally just had my second (less than 24 hrs) and I look forward to watching them grow and bond.

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  31. I totally agree with all of this! It is much easier the second time around and not just because you know what your doing but because other people believe you know what your doing. :)

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  32. What a great post! I only just had baby number one and don't know how I could possible handle another one in a year or two

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  33. Yes, yes, yes, YES!! Such a good list and oh so true!! My kids are 19 months apart and I'm right there with you about all of this!

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  34. Such a good list!! Thank you so much for sharing! We'll be trying for #2 soon and this makes me so excited!

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  35. Oh gosh, this makes me want #2 right now!!!

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  36. YES!! I actually had to pull out my phone and count how many months my second son is today...oops! LOL

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  37. #7 and #10 are my favs. My husband became a totally different father to our first-born when our second-born came into the picture...and I feel like I am so much more of a relaxed mommy now. I'm able to enjoy the "little things." :)

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  38. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I so needed this. Baby number 2 is due in 4 weeks, and I have been very worried about all of this. I needed this reminder so much tonight.

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  39. I love this post as difficult as it was for me to read. I always wanted more than one child but due to health issues of my son and me, I don't think its going to be possible - and that is difficult for me to accept. Each and every day is a blessing.

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  40. we only have one little at this point ( 2 1/2 years), but we're hoping to have another one soon and I'll definitely be saving this post for that time! Thank you for giving me something to look forward to :)

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  41. Great list! Thanks for sharing! And it gets even more so of everything you posted with baby #3!

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